Ladies first?

Many times we hear people especially guys say "ladies first". My question is do they really put the ladies first? and how often do they do that?

The irony is that most times, when it comes to things that are very beneficial to the ladies or when the guys should really put the ladies first, they act otherwise. That's when you know it's one man for himself/herself. Women are the weaker vessels, they say...it's just that they forget that sometimes. I've seen guys struggling with ladies, trying to outsmart ladies or acting like they have little or nothing to offer. The height is the issue of some men beating their girlfriend/wife for reasons I can never understand...And they still say it's ladies first. How? I ask myself.

Male children are celebrated but people sometimes have issues with a woman that has female child/children and is yet to have a male child. They don't mind going to any length to get one, forgetting that the male child cannot come naturally from a man and a man. But they insist it's ladies first...oh...please!

In our society, it's okay for a man to cheat on his wife but it's a taboo for a woman to cheat on her husband. I once heard from a set of men that it's part of our culture for a man to have extra-marital affairs. Seriously?!!! since when? Guys are so quick to make reference to the Proverbs 31 woman and they ask " a virtuous woman/good wife, who can find?" They forget the part that says "many a man proclaims his own loyalty but a faithful man who can find?" (Proverbs 20 vs. 6).

This is not being bias, it's just saying the obvious. I'm not saying there are no gentlemen or good guys around, don't get me wrong because there are. The question is how many? Maybe if guys start treating ladies like they really matter, I'll believe the 'ladies first' thing.

Talking from another perspective, I'll say we, ladies, should also put ourselves in positions that would make guys respect us. While trying to please guys, some ladies sometimes forget their worth and let a guy take them for granted. So, instead of nagging about a guy treating you bad all the time, you should work on your self too.

Lastly, guys, look at things from a girl's perspective sometimes. Don't just say ladies first with your lips alone when it's not in your heart.

Maybe the next time I meet a guy at a door and he says "ladies first", I'll be like "seriously?"...  :)

Do you think I really want to listen to that?!

There's something that I have seen and still see as awkward. It has to do with the funny way people act in public transport. It's something that happens often. This funny, and sometimes not funny act pushed me to write this.

Recently, I boarded a bus and not long after the bus moved, one of the passengers started playing music from his phone ('chinko' i guess... :) ). If it was audible enough and not so loud, maybe it would have been better but it wasn't. To me, it was something far from music...it was simply noise! Guess everybody has some form of freedom to do whatever they want but shouldn't there be a limit?

On another beautiful day in a cab, the cab driver 'entertained' us by playing Saheed Osupa's songs not bothered if we were truly entertained or not. I had to BEG him when I needed to receive a call. And when the call ended, before I could say Jack, the volume was up again!

Another funny example is that which happened recently in a bus. A passenger was practically shouting and telling us issues he had with people working with him till he allighted from the bus, all in the name of making a phone call. Hearing him talk on phone, one could actually summarise what he has been up to lately and the issues he's having with his driver. This kind of thing just makes me wonder if there isn't more to the phone call. Maybe he just wanted attention of other passengers or something.

I wonder why people have earphones/ear piece and refuse to use it when they really should. I don't think there's anything stopping you from using ear phone if you want to listen to songs on your phone when you are in a public place. And if you want to make or receive a call that's meant to be personal or confidential and there are many people around, you'll be doing yourself and those around you a whole lot of good by keeping your voice a bit down.


Anytime I experience or remember things like those I mentioned earlier, I just can't help but ask myself "why was earphone invented?"...and sometimes I wish I could scream "DO YOU THINK I REALLY WANT TO LISTEN TO THAT?!

Hopefully, someday when I get my own car, i won't have to worry about all that :)