Tuesday, 17 December 2013
Many times we hear people especially guys say "ladies first". My question is do they really put the ladies first? and how often do they do that?
The irony is that most times, when it comes to things that are very beneficial to the ladies or when the guys should really put the ladies first, they act otherwise. That's when you know it's one man for himself/herself. Women are the weaker vessels, they say...it's just that they forget that sometimes. I've seen guys struggling with ladies, trying to outsmart ladies or acting like they have little or nothing to offer. The height is the issue of some men beating their girlfriend/wife for reasons I can never understand...And they still say it's ladies first. How? I ask myself.
Male children are celebrated but people sometimes have issues with a woman that has female child/children and is yet to have a male child. They don't mind going to any length to get one, forgetting that the male child cannot come naturally from a man and a man. But they insist it's ladies first...oh...please!
In our society, it's okay for a man to cheat on his wife but it's a taboo for a woman to cheat on her husband. I once heard from a set of men that it's part of our culture for a man to have extra-marital affairs. Seriously?!!! since when? Guys are so quick to make reference to the Proverbs 31 woman and they ask " a virtuous woman/good wife, who can find?" They forget the part that says "many a man proclaims his own loyalty but a faithful man who can find?" (Proverbs 20 vs. 6).
This is not being bias, it's just saying the obvious. I'm not saying there are no gentlemen or good guys around, don't get me wrong because there are. The question is how many? Maybe if guys start treating ladies like they really matter, I'll believe the 'ladies first' thing.
Talking from another perspective, I'll say we, ladies, should also put ourselves in positions that would make guys respect us. While trying to please guys, some ladies sometimes forget their worth and let a guy take them for granted. So, instead of nagging about a guy treating you bad all the time, you should work on your self too.
Lastly, guys, look at things from a girl's perspective sometimes. Don't just say ladies first with your lips alone when it's not in your heart.
Maybe the next time I meet a guy at a door and he says "ladies first", I'll be like "seriously?"... :)